Such a powerful story. My heart hurts for you, but what a protection your breath gave you by momentarily leaving your body. It made everything so clear. It really is the most spectacular messenger and savior. I’m so glad he got out, and that you’re here to share your stories of transformation and empowerment through breathwork meditation and yoga. It’s such a gift. 💝
Of course, as you know with any break-up, there is so much more to the story. It took another several months to untangle. And, in the big scheme of things, from F-You/Get Out to signed divorce papers and no more contact was less than 6 months. I was lucky.
Kissed a bunch of frogs for the next 3 years, met the Hobbit at year 4 and the rest is history.
I so love reading your stories because I can FEEL you through the memories of all the frogs I loved before meeting Hobbit. Your stories are so raw and fully honest. I honor that in you.
Wow, Teri, this story is incredibly powerful. Your honesty about such a vulnerable moment is truly inspiring. It's a stark reminder of how our bodies react in times of extreme stress, and how the simple act of breathing can become an anchor. Your journey with breathwork is a testament to its transformative power. Thank you for sharing this deeply personal experience and reminding us all to go "steady" with our breath.
Twice divorced. I bow to you. To have the strength to admit that something isn't working anymore and move on...that takes courage. And yes, breathing is all you can do sometimes, and breathing until it isn't hard.
One of the best pieces of advice I got in my divorce came from my big brother, who divorced before I did. He said "It hurts. until it doesn't. eventually it doesn't hurt anymore." Not really advice, but I took that to mean breathe until it doesn't.
Thank you deeply for sharing your story, Teri Leigh, and for being vulnerable with us. So powerful. I am so happy for you that you have Hobbit now and have the kind of relationship you deserve. Love and hugs 🫂 to you 🩵
Love and hugs right back to you Deanna. Life has so many twists and turns and shakes and shiggles. I am through this one and have found the giggles on the other side, I hope my story helps others realize there are giggles on the other side.
I feel so terrible that you had to experience that but I'm glad that years of practicing yoga and breathwork gave you the strength to deal with it so bravely. I'm happy that you're now in a wonderful relationship that you deserve to be in. So brave of you to share this experience in a raw and honest way. This post certainly inspires me to be more conscious of my breathing.
If this inspired you to be more conscious of your breathing, it served its purpose. The experience is far behind me and I am more than well healed from it, having taken the challenges of it and turned them inside-out into blessings. My life is better for having gone through this.
Powerful, powerful story. I have a story with some overlap: a seminarian with an addiction to various things. Him banging a kitchen cleaver threatening to kill me, our daughter and himself. I picked up the phone and told him we could call our therapist or I could call 911. He swore and swore at me and agreed to call the therapist. We actually had a peaceable parting of ways after that. I didn't know about breath, but grace was with me in that moment, for sure.
Oh my. Your story sounds VERY familiar. and a lot scarier. Especially the threat on your daughter. I am always amazed at the strength and grace and power of women to find such clarity in the darkest of moments of life, like you did here. And I do believe breath plays a huge role in that clarity. Blessings to you. I want to soul-sister hug you right now!
<3!!! Thank you! Interestingly I rejected breath work early in life because my mother used it but as an empath I could feel her toxicity and that she was coping but not actually root-causing her issues, while projecting onto me land life in hugely icky ways. So I went to my head for so so long. The journey back to breath is ongoing, and I am really grateful for your contributions! Hugs back to you soul sister!
I had a client tell me she actively rejects breathwork for similar reasons. her coping mechanism is victimhood and holding her breath. Needless to say, she wasn't a client for very long. I'm glad you are finding a better relationship with breath now.
Yeah, my mother would tell me uncurl my toes, show me breath work….and then be the unsafe emotional person that I made me feel like I needed to hold it, needed to keep my toes curled. It took a long time to realize she was right about a lot of things even if she never was able to move toward self-forgiveness in a way that would have allowed root cause healing and ownership of the pain she inflicted. Everyone moves beyond victimhood in their own time and way. Ultimately, holding onto victimhood keeps us from the only power we have, even if at the time if feels like holding onto the power of claiming a reality others denied or tried to manipulate or distort.
oh so true. everyone moves on from victimhood in their own time and way. and sometimes holding space for such souls is very exhausting, and at other times can be abusive. I'm so glad you found your way through your mom's issues to find your own power.
Such a powerful story. My heart hurts for you, but what a protection your breath gave you by momentarily leaving your body. It made everything so clear. It really is the most spectacular messenger and savior. I’m so glad he got out, and that you’re here to share your stories of transformation and empowerment through breathwork meditation and yoga. It’s such a gift. 💝
Of course, as you know with any break-up, there is so much more to the story. It took another several months to untangle. And, in the big scheme of things, from F-You/Get Out to signed divorce papers and no more contact was less than 6 months. I was lucky.
Kissed a bunch of frogs for the next 3 years, met the Hobbit at year 4 and the rest is history.
I so love reading your stories because I can FEEL you through the memories of all the frogs I loved before meeting Hobbit. Your stories are so raw and fully honest. I honor that in you.
Wow, Teri, this story is incredibly powerful. Your honesty about such a vulnerable moment is truly inspiring. It's a stark reminder of how our bodies react in times of extreme stress, and how the simple act of breathing can become an anchor. Your journey with breathwork is a testament to its transformative power. Thank you for sharing this deeply personal experience and reminding us all to go "steady" with our breath.
Breath really is magick. and if I hadn't been practicing for 10 years prior to this "incident" I'm quite sure it would have gone very differently.
Wonderful advice as always Teri. Thank you.
Thank you Wendy for reading and commenting. I appreciate you.
Teri,
I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm twice divorced and I know the pain.
I also know that there are ways through it, and sometimes breathing is all you can do ... but you keep doing it until it is not hard.
Twice divorced. I bow to you. To have the strength to admit that something isn't working anymore and move on...that takes courage. And yes, breathing is all you can do sometimes, and breathing until it isn't hard.
One of the best pieces of advice I got in my divorce came from my big brother, who divorced before I did. He said "It hurts. until it doesn't. eventually it doesn't hurt anymore." Not really advice, but I took that to mean breathe until it doesn't.
Your brother is a wise man x
Thank you deeply for sharing your story, Teri Leigh, and for being vulnerable with us. So powerful. I am so happy for you that you have Hobbit now and have the kind of relationship you deserve. Love and hugs 🫂 to you 🩵
Love and hugs right back to you Deanna. Life has so many twists and turns and shakes and shiggles. I am through this one and have found the giggles on the other side, I hope my story helps others realize there are giggles on the other side.
Oh Teri. This one makes me want to give you a huge bravery hug. Tiny little you stood up and repeated get out.
Well done ❣️ so well done.
I give 100% credit to my BFF Breath. She's always there for me. I did train her well, and now she shows up for me. Every single time.
I feel so terrible that you had to experience that but I'm glad that years of practicing yoga and breathwork gave you the strength to deal with it so bravely. I'm happy that you're now in a wonderful relationship that you deserve to be in. So brave of you to share this experience in a raw and honest way. This post certainly inspires me to be more conscious of my breathing.
If this inspired you to be more conscious of your breathing, it served its purpose. The experience is far behind me and I am more than well healed from it, having taken the challenges of it and turned them inside-out into blessings. My life is better for having gone through this.
I'm so glad to hear that. The difficult experiences in life are often a road to transformation and you have certainly transformed so well! 💙
Powerful, powerful story. I have a story with some overlap: a seminarian with an addiction to various things. Him banging a kitchen cleaver threatening to kill me, our daughter and himself. I picked up the phone and told him we could call our therapist or I could call 911. He swore and swore at me and agreed to call the therapist. We actually had a peaceable parting of ways after that. I didn't know about breath, but grace was with me in that moment, for sure.
Oh my. Your story sounds VERY familiar. and a lot scarier. Especially the threat on your daughter. I am always amazed at the strength and grace and power of women to find such clarity in the darkest of moments of life, like you did here. And I do believe breath plays a huge role in that clarity. Blessings to you. I want to soul-sister hug you right now!
<3!!! Thank you! Interestingly I rejected breath work early in life because my mother used it but as an empath I could feel her toxicity and that she was coping but not actually root-causing her issues, while projecting onto me land life in hugely icky ways. So I went to my head for so so long. The journey back to breath is ongoing, and I am really grateful for your contributions! Hugs back to you soul sister!
I had a client tell me she actively rejects breathwork for similar reasons. her coping mechanism is victimhood and holding her breath. Needless to say, she wasn't a client for very long. I'm glad you are finding a better relationship with breath now.
Yeah, my mother would tell me uncurl my toes, show me breath work….and then be the unsafe emotional person that I made me feel like I needed to hold it, needed to keep my toes curled. It took a long time to realize she was right about a lot of things even if she never was able to move toward self-forgiveness in a way that would have allowed root cause healing and ownership of the pain she inflicted. Everyone moves beyond victimhood in their own time and way. Ultimately, holding onto victimhood keeps us from the only power we have, even if at the time if feels like holding onto the power of claiming a reality others denied or tried to manipulate or distort.
oh so true. everyone moves on from victimhood in their own time and way. and sometimes holding space for such souls is very exhausting, and at other times can be abusive. I'm so glad you found your way through your mom's issues to find your own power.